Relationship Check: 5 Signs Your Relationship is Going Haywire


Do you feel like your relationship is sinking down to the deepest part of the ocean? Well, here are 5 signs your hunch is right—and tips on how you can remedy things.


  1. Not enough communication

It has been proven by experts and love gurus that communication is the key to a long-lasting relationship. The more you speak openly to each other about your day-to-day dilemmas the more you realize that conversing makes your feelings toward each other stronger. Let’s face reality, we get into a relationship because we see a potential in the other person, a candidate for a lifetime partner. We don’t date just to pass time.

If you find that you have less and less communication with your partner, take that to mean that there has been a lapse in your relationship. Fix it. How? Simple, engage, converse, go back and look for that reason why you are infatuated with that person. Each individual has a language of love they feel comfortable with. Speak it, apply it, communicate with them the only way they want to be associated with, use their language of love.

  1. When arguing becomes a habit

Every relationship is not perfect—it will inevitably experience some bumps every now and then. But while the occasional argument do add some spice to your union, if you get past a certain point and your arguments have become habitual your relationship has probably become toxic and both of you need a major time out. Can there be a remedy? In every situation no matter how hard the circumstance is, there is a solution.

Find the core of your problem. The key to this kind of trouble is to listen. Listen to each other’s point of view, their insights, and frustrations. In silence formulate a way to ease off your better half’s anger and turn it the opposite direction. Think outside the box and come out of your shell. When everything else is wrong always remember what’s right. LOVE.

  1. Fooled—not once but twice

Lying has been one of the many reasons a relationship has raised the white flag. If one can’t be faithful then what’s the use of prolonging the agony? Be subtle, be vigilant, be patient, most of all be honest. It is a partial requirement for a healthy emotional state. Do not be blinded by your feelings, you deserve to be happy and loved.


If someone is a good catch they would want to be caught. Stop chasing after people who require being chased. Don’t lose your worth and self-respect to stay in a relationship. Once is enough. If you are being cheated on repeatedly, then break away. Don’t be hard on yourself. A little space and perspective is all you need to finally let go.

  1. “I need space”

This phrase gets tossed around lately. Generally when the situation reaches this level there’s no point in saving it. Statistics show that 8 out of 10 relationships that have gone through this horrifying stage has eventually lost its charm. Women or men when told these words create an emotional wall. They still try to save what they think is worth saving, but eventually it end ups badly. Don’t try to enforce yourself on a person who needs the space, give them what they want, the distance.

Sometimes that little gap between you is all you both need to identify your strengths and capabilities. It fixes the relationship if you both visualize the root of all these dilemmas, and you both act on it. Don’t just sit around and let the feelings fade. Always hold on to the promise you once gave to each other, so love, when all signals are low, when the storm has blown too hard, when you’re in too deep, just LOVE.

  1. No more quality time

What are the components of a relationship? Surely, one of the ingredients to a picture perfect, head over heels bond is time. Admit to yourself that you need it. The simple gesture of giving your precious time to someone else is special, it makes you feel wanted, loved and secured. But what happens if you lose your quality time? Then, the problems start to kick in. If you can’t be there for someone then save the friendship while you’re at it.

Everyone deserves a little exertion of effort. This is considered a gratitude too many, a love language in fact. Many people tend to lose themselves when not given the privilege to be with the other. Try examining yourself first. Are you ready to commit? If you’re not ready then don’t push it. If you’re not ready to add value to their life just admire them from afar. Don’t interrupt their greatness, find yourself first before attaching yourself to another person, then happiness shall follow.

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