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How to Overcome the Fear of Missing Out

In Singapore, kiasu is what we call “the fear of missing out”. A more popular term used by people around the world today though is FOMO which is basically the acronym. Because other people also experience it, you can be sure that it’s something not just felt in Singapore. In many cases, the fear of missing out can affect our mental and emotional health negatively. If you think you’re already under too much FOMO, here are some things you can do.

Take a break from social media

One of the biggest fuels for FOMO is social media. In social media platforms like Twitter, Instagram or Facebook, you’ll see endless posts about people living the good life. This will lead you to compare yourself to them over and over. Then, you might also post similar experiences to feel better about yourself and to feel that you’re not getting left behind. This is why taking a break from social media is a giant leap you have to make to overcome FOMO. Once you try it, you’ll see that you’re not really missing out on anything at all.

Think that doing nothing isn’t negative at all

One effect of FOMO is that it makes us think we have to keep doing something. It becomes so bad that it comes to the point when even if we need rest, we still think about doing something. Let’s say your co-workers go out for dinner parties almost every Saturday. You might think that you’ll miss all the fun if you don’t go but not going at least once or twice really won’t hurt at all. If you feel tired, don’t sacrifice rest just to have fun!

Practice being mindful

Another great way to overcome FOMO is to practice being mindful of the present. You can practice mindfulness through a variety of ways. Some of the most common are meditation and journaling. You can also practice it by simply focusing on your senses at a given time. For example, you can pay attention to the taste of the laksa you’re eating right now. Or you can pay attention to the sounds you hear while on your commute. Being mindful simply teaches you to live in the moment.

See the value of gratitude

Because of FOMO, we see ourselves focusing more on the things we still lack instead of those we already have. This is why we should all see the importance of being grateful for what we have. This allows us to appreciate our smallest successes and even the challenges we face. When you realize how much you have, it will not be difficult for you to overcome the fear of missing out. That is simply because you’ve learned to be content.


5 Things Men Should Quit Doing by 30

There’s quite a lot of immature stuff society will give you a pass on when you’re on your 20s, but most of these things get depressing and downright stupid as you march towards your 30s. We expect people to improve themselves as they get older, especially men since the possibility of having kids and a family comes to picture.

With that in mind, here’s a list of five habits every man needs to break once they reach 30.

1. Getting Into Online Arguments

By the time you’re 30, you should have better things to do with your time than get into fights in the comments section of a forum or a Facebook post. If you have that much time to waste in the internet, you must be unemployed.

2. Keeping All Your Money in One Place

Ideally, by the time you’re 30, you should be making more money than ever and you must not be keeping all your savings in a regular savings account. During this time you should know how to make your money work for you, such as by putting it in a retirement plan as well as broadening our investment portfolio.

3. Constantly Playing Video Games

Video and mobile games are spending so much and making every effort to branch out to different consumers. Although no one is going to look down on you for playing some game on your iPhone while sitting on a bus, slouching in front of your computer for 48 hours because you have to reach a specific EXP point to level up, something is wrong.

4. Binge Drinking

We don’t mean to stop drinking any and all kinds of liquor. It’s actually healthy to drink in moderation, and in fact, you may need to when you’re out with your bosses and colleagues. You’re a grown man now, there’s no need to show off how macho you are with booze. If you want to drink, just drink—no need to get drunk.

5. Living Paycheck to Paycheck

Rich men are rich because they are considerate enough to invest or save their money. Wealth is something we need to work hard at, even if it means living in poverty today for a better and brighter tomorrow. If being wealthy isn’t motivating you, just consider the emergencies that might need you to have some extra cash on hand. What if you get into an accident? Do you have enough cash to send yourself to the hospital or have your car repaired?

Being in your 30s does not mean you’re over the hill; in fact, your life has just begun. However, it’s expected from us to be more responsible with our actions and make better decisions in life.


Foolproof Ways to Become a Productive Morning Person

 

Do you have a love-hate relationship with mornings? Yeah, you already know that waking up early can make you more productive and motivated to start the day, which is why successful people wake up before sunrise.

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The problem is that you absolutely hate to get out of the bed earlier than you have to. If you badly wish to get rid of this practice and create a more success-propelling day routine, here are some simple techniques you can do that will make waking up in the morning much easier—and even more fun.

  1. Set your goal for the next morning before going to bed.

You’ll surely have a hard time getting up if your last thought before going to bed is the burden of having to wake up six in the morning. Instead of torturing your mind with negative thinking, find something that will motivate you to get out of the bed easily the next day, such as a hearty breakfast or even a good morning call to your significant other.

  1. Put your alarm clock far away from your bed.

Rather than placing your alarm clock on the side table next to your bed, move it far away from your bed. When the alarm goes off, you’ll be forced to rise and engaged to move. Moving is somehow energizing and helps you gain consciousness when you just woke up from deep sleep.

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  1. Enjoy a protein-rich breakfast.

Breakfast is the most important meal of the day, so if you want a productive morning get a hearty fix before leaving home for work. After sleeping for six straight hours, our blood sugar and metabolism are at their lowest; a protein-rich meal will re-energize the body. A good breakfast should consist of a protein, a fruit and whole grains.

  1. Let the sunlight stream into your room.

A light box, which mimics the sun light, is probably the best fixture you can add in your room to push yourself to get up in the morning. The brain is naturally sensitive to light—the reason why we can’t sleep well in the morning even though we had the toughest day and went to bed past our bedtime the night before. If spending S$60 to S$250 on a light box isn’t an option, place your bed right across the window, so the sunlight can wake you up in the morning.

Hopefully, with these tips, your love-hate relationship with mornings may become an unconditional true love as you find the perfect and the most compatible morning routine for you.

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